28/9/2017 56 Comments Pink Hair.....don't care?So life is pretty crappy, we all know this. Its why I'm writing this and why your reading it. In every aspect of my life people are going above and beyond to help me and my family. It is human nature. Imagine my horror when I found out my eldest was being put on break and lunch time detentions! Has she been caught smoking? caught bunking? being violent? rude? not doing her work? No. Mia was being punished because her hair is pink. Even tho when she started back at the beginning of September it was discussed and after she explained why she had pink hair it didn't seem to be a problem. Her pink hair was for me. I didn't want her shaving her head so we compromised on pink hair. It made her very happy. Its not bright or in your face its a very pale almost blonde pink. 3 weeks later 2 male teachers have decided Mia has to dye her hair a natural colour. Her hair is naturally very blonde. Am I right in thinking to satisfy a Wizard of Oz style headmaster who is far too important to communicate directly with parents, I'm to dye my daughters hair jet black? bright orange? or do I allow him to pick what natural colour she should go? I had to email him via an assistant to explain why her hair was pink and that she must not be punished instead he should use this as an opportunity to praise my daughter for her courageous attitude and also use this to reach out to other student who maybe suffering. There has to be other pupils who have gone through or are going through this. There are 1,000000 Mums in this country fighting cancer so imagine how many children are being affected. Surely this is the bigger picture? Surely the fact my daughter expressing herself and being vocal about whats going on is the most important thing. How many children are suffering in silence? Not wanting to burden their parents with their fears?? How could a grown arse man entrusted with our children not see the bigger picture? How could he not jump on this and make sure the right help and support was being giving to his students? As long as Ofsted give them a good write up who cares what that children feel. I did get a reply from Mr Hume via his assistant. He said he was sorry I had cancer but I should have given the school prior notice and they would have included it in their fundraising event. He apologised for any further distressed caused. I didn't reply to that email. It was cold and condescending, I'm suffering terribly from chemo brain at the moment too so I wanted to wait untill I was feeling better. The next day Mia was approached by her head of year who took her to Mr Hume and another male teacher. She was told that she was to be placed on breaks and lunches and that the ball was left in her Mums court. Which upset her because she knew how much I had been suffering with the chemotherapy sickness. A simple thing like sending an email is so hard for me at the moment. They didn't ask her how she was feeling. They didn't ask if there was anything she needed. How her lessons were going? Not even, 'if it gets too much my door is always open'. No, all they could say to 14 year girl crying her eyes out was 'I just don't see why you cant dye it' I'm sure they are very sorry I have cancer not as sorry as I am I entrusted my daughter into their care.
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Paula
28/9/2017 02:32:07 pm
OMG how bloody insensitive and archaic, why would they not use this opportunity to perhaps discuss as a school children who are suffering because they have an unwell parent and perhaps give them a time/place to discuss this if they need to. What comfort it may give for these teenagers who we know at the best of times find it hard to voice their feelings to know they are not the only one in this horrible situation. How awful for poor Mia not to be supported by the people she has to spend every day with. Mia your pink hair looks amazing and you look beautiful don't be brought down by these petty minded , ignorant people xxx
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terry
28/9/2017 09:56:26 pm
tell them bollox and dye it fleurosant pink with black spots xxx that will teach them....
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Louise
28/9/2017 09:57:06 pm
Don’t worry, Glenthorne you can do absoltly nothing in, if you have bad skin you can’t even put abit of foundation on, you have to go to school with your confidence being on 0 your can’t express your personality in any shape or form because having your hair is such a HUGE distraction to pupils leaurning, I went to Glenthorne and it has been the worst place ever all they notice is the BAD thing you do never the GOOD things life has been so much better scince I left their, adults always say when you start working and grow up you wished you’d still be in high school, because it’s so easier but not me I hated every minute of school your 2 seconds late over the bell and you have an hour detention their rule are so so silly your can’t express yourself in any way everyone has to be the same !!!!😡😡😡
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29/9/2017 07:39:33 pm
I am absolutely disgusted by this, what appalling, insensitive behaviour. Mia needs extra suppport not stress, she needs teachers to look out for her and look after her. I have been a daughter of a Mother with cancer and know how all consuming and distressing it is to deal with, by the way thats for an adult, not alone a 14 year old. This is going to result in lots of bad press for Mr Hulme, nasty little twat indeed. I had already decided that I wont even be putting Glenthorne on the admission form for my Son in October, this further confirms that I am making the right decision. As I said to a fellow Mum when I went to the open evening last September and heard his speech, he talked of nothing but his school and only seemed to care about his pride, not about the well being of the pupils.
Kerry
29/9/2017 01:16:36 am
It don't surprise me one bit I'm so sorry to hear of your sad news and how your daughter is being treated I myself hate that school my older boy went there and he's 19 now he had a terrible time and Mr Hume said to him one day before he left you will be nothing when your older you have no brains and are stupid my son left school at 16 and has been woring ever since I made the biggest mistake in letting my daughter go there she has been going through alot at that school she's in year 10 now the surname sticks with that man so my youngest just started carshalton boys and he loves it I'm so glad he didn't get glenthorne I wouldn't of sent him to that shit school anyway alot of people I know have had trouble from that school my daughter is holding on just in that school but I bet she gets kicked out before the year has ended all becouse she sticks up for her self and I don't mean fighting or mouthing off hope you sort it out all my love xxxx
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Miriam
30/9/2017 12:16:03 pm
Doesn't one of the teachers there have pink hair - geography teacher I believe
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Sandy
28/9/2017 02:39:17 pm
Fucking liberty Hun when will they get there priorys right doesn't take a brain surgeon Hun FFS
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Sandra Parmenter
28/9/2017 03:06:32 pm
Fucking wankers. What a shame her mum isn't a migrant one legged lesbian. They'd be jumping through hoops then. Stand your ground Laura Harriet Bailey and refuse to dye her hair. What a great job you are doing with all your kids despite what you are going through. Ring the local guardian they love stories like this. It will show the school headmaster up for the ignoramus he is 💗 #pinkisthenewblack
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Marney
28/9/2017 03:27:09 pm
Ive had dealings with Mr Hume as both my children went to Glenthorne! The man is a out right TWAT! Your daughter is showing great courage with everything you are all going through! I would go to the local paper and see what they can make of it! Sending a hug to you and your family!😘x
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Susan Whitfield
28/9/2017 03:55:07 pm
Laura I would, your health allowing, March up to Mr Hume with your wonderful bald head and Mia with her beautiful pink hair and be your usual articulate self and give it to him with both barrels. Round up a few of the other mothers too. It's a bloody disgrace and he should be named and shamed. Poor Mia xxxx.
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juliette
28/9/2017 04:36:27 pm
I'm sure the other students wouldn't mind signing a letter/petition supporting your daughter. They could also all dye their hair pink/purple/green until they reverse the decision and apologize to het.
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Laura Leyland
29/9/2017 06:32:51 pm
Yes! I agree... Poor girl. My daughter goes there, what if we all dye our kids hair pink?! I'm down! Start a petition!
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Emily Coleman
30/9/2017 10:45:42 am
Hi Laura on Thursday lots of people in mine and Mia's year will be spraying our hair pink. If your daughter wants to join in then that would be amazing. Thank you xx
Michelle
28/9/2017 06:34:27 pm
This sadly doesn't surprise me knowing Mr Hume is involved, I have had many dealings with him, one being that my mother was having cancer treatment and I was with her every day for it, I asked permission that my son be allowed to have his phone switched on in his bag in case I got delayed at the hospital so he could pick up his brother from primary school, who has autism and couldn't be picked up by anyone else, his answer was absolutely not, phones were to be switched off during school hours and that I should arrange something else, he is a bully and has no compassion, he also has little man syndrome, which is why he will never back down on anything and always has to show his authority, most unkind and maybe the local guardian would like to do a story on such a brace family and supportive daughter, wonder if he would like that
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Aneta
29/9/2017 06:23:59 pm
Oh my Michelle… perhaps you can send a message to your son, he gets it as soon as he is out of school and then he knows if he should go home or pick up brother.? Hope you manage to sort it out…
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Wendy Powell
28/9/2017 07:38:11 pm
Mr Hume, the nasty little twat. This man (if you can call him that) drove both of my kids out of glenthorne, ok they're not angels but I had to take them both out at the age of fifteen if your child don't fit into his robotic idea then your out , he's got little man syndrome. Take this to the papers, start a petition show everyone for what he is . I will sign it , don't let your daughter dye her hair , it's her way of showing you she's with you all the way
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Steve and hazel
28/9/2017 07:48:49 pm
We are so sorry that these teachers have treated your daughter this way, this school needs showing up especially these male teachers who are obviously bullies !in this day and age compassion should be shown but obviously there's none at Glenthorne ! One of our granddaughters go there which is now a big worry! Another goes to Cheam High which hopefully has better attitudes and compassion. Your daughter looks perfectly fine to attend school with her hair colour, just hope that every one in her year could dye or spray their hair pink in support of her that would show the moron of a head teacher that there's compassion and love in the world other than complete ignorance!!!
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Jan Bovey
28/9/2017 08:10:57 pm
mr Hume nasty piece of work he is a bully the way he talks to kids is terrible I've had many words with the twat when my youngest daughter was there your daughters hair looks lovely
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Sally
28/9/2017 08:30:13 pm
Really sorry to hear your daughter has gone through this, I myself have recently gone through breast cancer so personally know how you are feeling & your children, my daughter attends Glenthorne & had full support from her head of year & teachers, I feel disgusted that your daughter has been made to feel like this & yourself, the school should support her in all areas weather she dyes her hair pink or shaves it, stand your ground , my daughters answer to your blog was that all students should dye there hair pink what would he do then the idiot, x
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nichola
28/9/2017 08:48:38 pm
I'm so glad I've seen this, not glad this has happened to you and your daughter absolutely disgraceful! I went to an open morning today for my son next year to start high school, after hearing only good things about this school I thought I'd give it a try, well to say I was not impressed one bit is an understatement. The lady that took us around literally didn't have a clue but the bit that really got to me was the fact they basically keep the year 7's in the tennis court with is called the cage... they have to spend there break and lunch in a cage!! they don't mix with the other year groups. I really don't understand this it's ridiculous. so now I have seen this aswell my son will definitely not be going to glenthorpe..
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Bindi
28/9/2017 09:00:07 pm
My mother in law says to share this story on this morning with Phillip and Holly xx
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Mary
28/9/2017 09:43:52 pm
Gobsmacked ...i would get as many students to dye there hair pink for cancer then see what Mr Hume does... Bloody arse
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Hen
28/9/2017 11:27:56 pm
Am bloody raging must be my Glaswegian blood it just came up thick and fast reading this , these male teachers/ headmasters surely must have experienced the big C in their life as most of the population now has experienced it and am so glad your blog is well written and articulate because what else can you say when your dealing with people like that whom are very cold to treat a beautiful child like that who is just looking after her mum and little brother and sister while things are falling apart is inhumane and please don't put any more bleach or colour through her hair as it will turn it orange or ruin it tell them you are prepared to use a cleansing shampoo everyday to it fades and nothing more nothing less love you kido ❤️💋Kick Ass
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Tracy
29/9/2017 04:56:07 am
His ..can I just say firstly ..keep fighting hun ..I know it's awful my mum went through this and I was her carer all the way through her treatment ..I know how it drags every piece of strength out of you ..secondly can I just say what a wonderful daughter you havery ..doing something to show she is standing for you by shoeing her love in this way ..outstanding !!,Gid bless her and you!,3rdly , the school and the headmaster ..have treated your daughter and yourself with absolute utter disrespect and ignorance ...and he must be an anal fu**ed up piece of total Sh*the !!, if I saw him I'd have to spit on him for this vile treatment ..I think you should go higher and further with this ..as they should of offered your daughter some form of councilling ..or at the very least an apology and a place to go to if she fe ed ls upset or needs some respite at school ..put up a petition for a form of investigation hun..lastly sending you both hugs and healing prayers , stay strong hun keep fighting ..get well !!,bless you both xxx
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T.
29/9/2017 08:56:07 am
Firstly I would like to say I am sorry to hear about your cancer and that you are suffering. All I hear through these comments are sorrow seeking people who are so self important that they only see themselves. That's exactly what you are showing your children... My suffering is so big... everyone needs to know! It would be far greater for Mia to actually do something that involves not her- dying her hair- but actually going into a hospital to volunteer her time to help other cancer sufferers like her own mum. We teach our children too much self love, self importance, expressing one self... !!! How does colouring your hair pink show you are in any form or way helping your mum?! Similarly people thing a tattoo in response to suffering sets a sign of support but in reality it is only an outward self appearance that notifies the world 'look I am a victim' or 'supporting'a victim. Greater love and support is shown when we go beyond the seen... when we act behind the scene. When we give freely of our time to others.... How lost is this generation, who are so self important, so self centred! I pray that you will be healed and for Mia to realise it isn't her hair that shows the world you love your mum- because that should be a given!! It is when you start to want to help others who are effected by a similar plight that you are seeing a change in this world.
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S
29/9/2017 10:13:17 am
T. Get a life
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Chloe
29/9/2017 10:50:58 pm
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Lisa
29/9/2017 01:43:37 pm
You are completely missing the point - and as much of an arse hole as the teacher. You have no empathy or sympathy...
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Sara
30/9/2017 07:44:37 am
You are a brave person to post this as you know what backlash you will get from everyone on here. I can't disagree with anything you say. What is sad, is that nobody here seems aware than when you send your child to a school, you agree to fit in with the rules of that school. Personal statements of any form are not part of this. There are hundreds of children in a school, each with their own situation- they cannot all behave how they wish, and so one child cannot either. One of the things school is there to teach, is conformity, in order to create employable, responsible citizens with options. It is sad that so many people put so much effort into fighting this. If one person is allowed to express themselves how they wish, what does this do for the morale of the others? If all people are allowed to express themselves and behave how they wish, you have anarchy. I do not know this headmaster, but he is acting for the good of the majority by not tolerating those who do not respect the rules that are there for the whole. It is very sad that this lady is ill and it is wonderful that she has a loving family and support, but a hate campaign against a school who abides by its principles is easy, knee-jerk, bandwagon stuff. Actions, and good deeds, as you say, would make the world a better place and give the satisfaction of doing so.
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Esther
30/9/2017 09:01:16 pm
how many adults do you know who have more than one ear piercing in their ear? how many adults in today’s day and age don’t have a ‘natural colour’? if there is anything 2017 has been about us been about expressing who you are and letting who you are shine through, as far as i’m concerned with the school coriculum is that they are not being taught how to do taxes, get a mortgage, how to be a actual adult, but instead they are being taught the cells of a leaf and bus stop methods, they do not teach anything that is helpful to when you get to adulthood you know how to look after yourself by yourself, they do not do anything for mental heath awareness and shine no light on the subject of depression anxiety self harming and eating disorders, they don’t teach you how to love yosuelf or be confident, all they do is put you in a box and that’s who you should be and will be. NO! that is not how things should be! and the stress schools add by all the homework is ridiculous, 14 pieces a week all due on the same days? what this courageous mother of 3 and wife is trying to say is that she has trusted that school too look after and support her daughter and they have not! you are not seeing the bigger picture of how if that was in a work environment her daughter wouldn’t be fired! or suspended off of work! she would explain the reason to who ever and as human beings they would accept it, so i will have to disagree with u entirely Sara. not very happy.
Debbie
30/9/2017 08:19:01 am
How selfish and shallow you are...... perhaps keep your opinions to yourself
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Sara
2/10/2017 11:34:08 am
Dear Esther and Debbie:
Char
29/9/2017 10:30:40 am
Sorry to hear about you being so ill.
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Jacky
29/9/2017 10:50:38 am
Horrible man , this doesnt surprise me . Both of my children forced out of that school. He has no compassion . My children hated the school . Really think twice before sending your children there.
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Vikkie Legray
29/9/2017 11:56:01 am
Why should it matter what color her hair is?! Asking as she is doing well in school, what does it matter? My thoughts go out to you & your family while your battling such a horrible disease.
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Danielle
29/9/2017 12:23:39 pm
I attended glenthorne from 2007 to 2011 when I was struck by a terrible brain tumour which forced me to leave glenthorne for a year but my mother never took me off enrolement at the school, when I went back mr Hume had taken me of the register even though he had a meeting with my parents, the power has gone to his head and he thinks he superior to everyone else
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Lizzie
29/9/2017 04:22:31 pm
How awful and insensitive , your daughters hair looks beautiful and I think it is a wonderful way of expressing her support. She should be praised and supported . It must be so hard for a young girl of her age going through teenage years alone without anything else. Her hair will not effect her exam results , her hair will not make her late for school , keep it up and stand by your guns x
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Amy
29/9/2017 05:55:06 pm
I went to Glenthorne and Mr Hume was exactly the same then. I remember he had a go at people for coughing...in the middle of cold and flue season. He even threatened the next person to cough with a detention. So essentially punishing children for bodily functions. And another time the school wouldn't give me a plaster when I cut my hand. Pastoral care at the school is pitiful. All it cares about is getting results and more funding. It doesn't matter what nefarious means it uses to get them.
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Shauna Curran
29/9/2017 06:08:44 pm
Spot on Amy, I got a detention then for coughing although I didn't get one for my bright purple hair oddly. He always has and always will be an arsehole
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Amy
29/9/2017 06:26:50 pm
How true. The smaller the man, the smaller the things that bother him. He has been in "power" too long and has become almost a totalitarian dictator. I remember how many students he let down. The fact it's and "arts college" is farcical. They do not inspire creativity, or free thinking. They don't want any individualist thinking at all. All they want is smart kids that can make them look good on league tables. Everyone else is pushed into whatever is convenient to the schools scheduling.
Kari
29/9/2017 06:55:41 pm
You need to respond in writing to the head, then go to the governors (in this case they are heavily influenced and led by the head so you shouldn't expect any support there), next step the Education authority, might then come to an independent tribunal type set up. It's a long process and one that no one in this condition should have to go through! I would say fight in normal circumstances, but in this case, I think it would be wisest and the least stressful to take her out and skip the trauma. He's already experienced a few stings, only a matter of time before karma the Queen bee wings her way! 😁
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Josie
29/9/2017 07:10:29 pm
I am using a pseudonym but I attended Glenthorne from 2008-2015. Mr Hume has always been the same. Putting money, results, and grades before the student's well being. When I was in sixth form, there were so many bizarre and unnecessary (although they would dispute this) rules that we had to follow, and if we didn't we wouldn't be allowed to attend class. Imagine that? You're not wearing the correct colour blazer so you can't study alongside your peers in lessons. That was supposed to help us, in their words! Throughout my 7 years at Glenthorne (particularly during 6th form) so, so many of my friends and people I knew were self-harming, had eating disorders, were being bullied, taking drugs and abusing alcohol. When I was in Year 9, one boy even killed himself.
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Chloe
29/9/2017 10:25:53 pm
I had a similar thing happen to me at this school with my hair I had gone through a really rough time at school with these teachers not going into it all but I shaved half my hair not bald still had hair on the short side about 3-4cm long they knew my circumstances about what had happen to me and what I was going through but still put me in break and lunch I was there for months my head of year used to measure my hair with a ruler Miss bishop if I even cut the tiniest bit off I would be on break and lunch for longer! But it was ok for a boy to have short back and sides? Is that not sexist? it's pathetic,how is cutting your hair or dying it pink stop you from learning? Everyone is different and they should be allowed to express themselves ✌🏼😊
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M H
30/9/2017 12:19:08 pm
Funny how they allow their staff to wear whatever colour hair they want. I recall seeing one of the teachers recently with pink hair
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Ms Dawn Frances Spragg
30/9/2017 04:13:59 pm
My daughter left this school after two weeks in their 6th form due to bullying and their dress code . As a member of the performing arts dye
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Lisa
30/9/2017 05:22:33 pm
Hiya! Dont even get me started with that bloody school!!!! My oldest left just over a year ago & hated it & I had many a run in with a certain Male head of Year!! I know who your daughters head of year is and he is vile, nasty , unsympathetic man ! My daughter has a severe medical condition and he didnt give a shit or even try to understand her conditon & continued to stalk her & actually harrass her for no reason at all!! Hume was aware of this member of staff attituide to my daughter & agreed he was no longer to have anything to do with her! and actually to be fair he was not happy with the head of year!!! however, i think they just wanted her out of the school after GCSE's, My youngest is at Glenthorne but has problems and yet again they just want her out of the school as its too much hassle to have kids with issues!!
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E
30/9/2017 11:30:25 pm
So, how has your daughter dying her hair contributed to finding the cure for cancer? Surely it would be much more useful if your daughter found a way of raising money instead of spending money that could have gone to charity on hair dye. As a recent member of Glenthorne, I completely understand why rules are in place as if one child breaks the rules, other children will follow. This can lead to major problems, such as bullying. I think you’ll find other schools in the local area, and around the country abide to similar rules, if you do your research. Therefore, your daughter is being treated equally to every other student in the school if they’d have died their hair pink. I sympathise with your illness, but there are more efficient and effective ways of increasing support and raising money towards finding a cure, instead of just dying hair. As you should know, when your daughter joined the school, you signed a piece of paper abiding to a set of rules so it’s nothing new that one rule in particular is having a natural hair colour. As a mother, you should think about how you have not abided by these rules, the school, and Mr Hume, are cleary not in the wrong.
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E
1/10/2017 12:00:29 am
And just to add, it’s quite contradicting to say ‘I didn't reply to that email. It was cold and condescending, I'm suffering terribly from chemo brain at the moment too so I wanted to wait untill I was feeling better‘ to then write a whole essay about the situation!
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Char
30/9/2017 11:56:02 pm
I’m pretty sure that Glenthorne isn’t the only school that has the rule of ‘hair must be of a natural colour’, as you know from when your daughter joined the school. Why should one child be treated differently and allowed to bend the rules when a number of children will be in a similar position to your daughter? Dying her hair pink is simply an ineffective way of raising awareness for cancer. Perhaps next time you should think of a more effective way of raising money that would actually make a difference to the lives of people suffering from cancer. I empathise with your illness and understand your intentions. However, the rules are there for a reason and even if your daughter was at a different school she would more than likely be in the same position.
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Katherine
1/10/2017 10:21:28 am
Firstly, let me say well done to you and your daughter for sticking to your guns. I can’t even imagine what it must feel like for both of you and the rest of your family to be fighting cancer, it’s such a cruel disease.
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Lorraine
1/10/2017 01:27:12 pm
I was visiting both you and Mum the day you received your second lot of bad news re the IBC..Mia was also there, I remember her saying she wanted to shave her hair, when it was your time to loose your own hair.Letting her dye her Beautiful long hair a suttel shade of pink, was definitely the better option for her, as her mother was the best advice for her .The school should be giving her TLC not punishing her, it’s totally outrageous, poor mia 💗
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Anon.
3/10/2017 11:04:17 pm
I go to this school and mr hume is a massive twat. he picks on everyone and has no life.
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